When a person is interacting with someone three things are most likely to happen:
We assume things about a person. For example someone saying “He has a hole in his shirt. He must be a smoker.”
We tend to have a habit of judging people. For example looking at a resume were the person took 5 years to complete a 3 year degree. We would immediately feel that person is lazy, not smart enough, or that he/she did not take life seriously. But it could also be the case that that person might have had health issues, or maybe they had to work to support their family.
3. Listening to Reply
Listening to reply instead of listening to understand. It becomes easier to make assumptions and judgments when we are not really and truly listening to someone. We are so eager to tell our story, or give advice that it stops us from listening to understand.
All of the above causes misunderstandings. It creates a blurred filter in which we are not really able to understand someone. This goes for all types of relationships: romantic relationships, family, friends, acquaintances and work colleagues.
Give people second chances.
I have been called gullible, overly optimistic, and a “people pleaser”. It used to bother me before, but now I don’t mind. No man – or woman – is an island. Now before you tell me we should not worry about what people think of us. You are absolutely correct! But it’s not always that simple. For example, we should worry when our loved ones don’t give us a second chance because we hurt them.
I don’t like to rely on first impressions.
We expect perfection – maybe it’s because of us constantly using machines and technology – but we need to remember that we are human. Human’s are not perfect. Treat others like how you would want to be treated. Give them a second chance.
There are times that I had been introduced to someone, or I went for an interview and things just didn’t work out. In that few minutes I felt nervous, or I said something that might be interpreted in a different way. But that is how life is. I’m very grateful to the people who gave me a chance and didn’t rely on my first impression.
Now there is a very important point to note. There might come a time when your gut/subconscious mind/intuition tells you NOT to give someone a second chance. At that point in time, listen to your intuition and not this article.
You can read more about intuition here.
What do you think about giving someone a second chance? Share your views by commenting below.
Wishing you lots of happiness.